It's the last post of 2014. It still doesn't feel like it, but it is.
So much of what I do is based on emotions--I even started this blog post about how it doesn't feel like the end, yet it is. The truth is so often the opposite of what we feel. Yes, it's denial and stubborness all in one. But it's also something else--it's remembering, it's allowing yourself the luxury of feeling. It is living.
I go around talking about my feelings and highlighting people's emotions, analyzing reactions of characters in stories and movies. Because that is the very thing that helps me thrive. Personal relationships. I understand the world through emotions. Affection. Passion. Inspiration. Thought and action that ignite notes of joy, nuances of sadness, complex shades of anger. I feel things because I'm alive.
And right now, I feel many things: nostalgia, gratefulness, contentment, anxiety, and hope.
I am nostalgic because one of my Biweekly friends, Heide, just recently posted a list of 40 things she has learned in the past two years, many of which have been learned the hard way (except all of the food and cooking stuff, I think, those are always good things to learn). I'm not close to Heide but our friendship is still growing. We have a different relationship because she's so different from a lot of my other friends. She is quirky without even trying, refreshingly odd and youthful, and she annoys me just as much as I love her because of how gut-wrenchingly honest she can be sometimes. As I read her list, laughing at each joke that I understood, smiling at every heartfelt piece of advice embedded within each lesson, and remembering the moments for which I was present that made it to the top 40 list, I grew so much fonder of her in that minute that it took me to go from 1 to 40. Then I hit the last lesson that she wrote: "Time is limited. Might as well spend it with good friends."
That one bit by Heide reinforced two things I learned this semester, and for them I am definitely grateful. Kendall touched upon the first one already: our clock counts down, not up. One of the things we can be certain about is that our days are numbered. As such, each second you have is precious and should not be wasted. So it only makes sense to spend each second with people you love and people who love you. Which leads to the second lesson: Anyone else is not worth your time. It's simple: the people who want to stay in your life will stay, and make the effort to stay. The people who don't will leave. Be thankful for the time they've given you but do not spite them for fading away from your life because, like I said, everyone is better off surrounding themselves with people who actually want to be there. This has taken a lot longer for me to learn than the first, but I have learned it and, like most things that you do end up learning after a bit of a struggle, it's a novel liberating feeling. Just like letting go.
And in that letting go, you are also granting yourself yet another luxury of being alive: the ability to choose what matters to you.
A college education, I've been told, not only teaches you how to think but also what to think about. The things that matter to you are important because you make them so. If you cared just enough, then you care enough without needing anyone else's justification or defense or validation--simple as that. And if you don't care, that's fine, so long as you care about other things too. Live without caring for anything or anyone and you live a pretty empty, colorless life. The same goes for personal aspects of your life, I think: you are what you make yourself to be, and so in that same vein, you determine your limits, your strengths, your worth.
And so I am content to choose to make the relationships I create and strengthen with others matter to me. I choose to care about the past, the present, and the future all at once. People are really made to love, and that's something you learn only after having experienced different types of love at different levels in different circumstances, all unconditionally. And the best place to start is with family and friends, and definitely friends who have become family to you.
But because my time is nearly ending with this particular stage of my life, I can't help but be anxious. I know that things don't just end after a chapter finishes. I know that I will always have my family, and that my best friends will always be my best friends. What I worry about is me: will I still be me? Yes and no, of course. I hope to be my best yet am anxious about how I will change, because I definitely will. New experiences bring new challenges and new challenges are opportunities for growth. So change I will. And of course that's something to be anxious about. It means that in addition to the unfamiliar environment, the unfamiliar circumstances, we are forced to accept a new and unfamiliar version of something that we should know the very best: ourselves.
Though Life manages to throw us the worst of curveballs, it also gives us the best pitches--and definitely everything in between. So I can't help but be hopeful as well. It's almost a giddy feeling, actually. The inevitability of something new and different is exciting despite its jarring newness against what has been the set routine for a couple of years now.
All of these feelings can be contradictory but, like I said, they tell me that I am alive. Jen, everything is working perfectly fine in your head and in your heart because of the very fact that you are confused and emotional and feeling everything all at once. You are alive and well and very human indeed. And I can't help but smile because I would not choose to be anything else.
Sunday, December 28, 2014
I Want To Be Bigger Than Life
Hey guys.
This is it. Last post of 2014. I don't know when this happened.
Thinking back on this year, so much did happen, even if I didn't think it did. I DID travel so much. Chicago, Florida, San Fransisco Portland, Road Trip. This was a crazy year for travel and it was so amazing (and really expensive). I DID go to a lot of concerts. I DID go to 18 concerts this year (also expensive) but so very worth it. I DID decide to graduate in three years instead of four. I DID so many little things in between, like did better things at my job, became closer to some people, grew away from others, I read 15 books (not definitive because I have a few days to finish the one I'm reading now), I got my own room, I semi figured out where I'm going.
2014 wasn't the best year in the word but it certainly wasn't the worst. It was necessary, but great. It went by so quickly. Jen had something to say about his recently, she said:
"I've been talking about this to Brandon a lot lately but I generally believe that time doesn't really move faster when we're older. People say that high school goes by so quickly, and that college is so much quicker. I think that's misleading because the rate of change is really constant throughout. It's just that as we get older, we become more attached to the people around us. We realize the weight of the present and see the importance of living. We learn how to love and to hold on to the things worth cherishing. And so it seems as if time moves more quickly because we don't want to part with the good things, the people and places we've built our comfort zone around. It's a bit scary isn't it? And I'm sure everyone feels it, which ought to make you less scared of it all, but that's easier said than done, as are most things."
I kind of disagree with her. I mean, what she said was right, we don't want to part with the good things that we've created. But time is moving faster, I mean, not actually, but comparatively. When we're 5, an hour seems like a forever because all we've lived is 5 years. 1 hour out of 5 years of hours is still kind of significant. But as we grow older, that ratio decreases. 1 hour out of 20 years of hours isn't as significant. The more time that passes, the less significant each second gets. If that's how you think about it. It can also be argued that each second is more vital. Our clock is counting down not up. Yes that's the depressing way to think about it but it's true. We can't waste our time holding on to things that were once comfortable to us. We have to take advantage of every opportunity that comes our way. We have to make the most of our time here, do what makes us happy. I feel like I've learned a lot this year and in some ways I've grown a lot too. There are obviously still so much room for improvement. There always is. But I think that it's time. I know that this is cliche and it's what everyone says about every year, but 2015 is it. It's THE year. I don't know why yet, but I know. And I kind of have to too. If I think 2015 is going to be a crap year, am I really giving it a chance to be great? No. 2015 is going to be the year. My year. And I can't wait for it.
Why This Week Was Awesome: Christmas
This is it. Last post of 2014. I don't know when this happened.
Thinking back on this year, so much did happen, even if I didn't think it did. I DID travel so much. Chicago, Florida, San Fransisco Portland, Road Trip. This was a crazy year for travel and it was so amazing (and really expensive). I DID go to a lot of concerts. I DID go to 18 concerts this year (also expensive) but so very worth it. I DID decide to graduate in three years instead of four. I DID so many little things in between, like did better things at my job, became closer to some people, grew away from others, I read 15 books (not definitive because I have a few days to finish the one I'm reading now), I got my own room, I semi figured out where I'm going.
2014 wasn't the best year in the word but it certainly wasn't the worst. It was necessary, but great. It went by so quickly. Jen had something to say about his recently, she said:
"I've been talking about this to Brandon a lot lately but I generally believe that time doesn't really move faster when we're older. People say that high school goes by so quickly, and that college is so much quicker. I think that's misleading because the rate of change is really constant throughout. It's just that as we get older, we become more attached to the people around us. We realize the weight of the present and see the importance of living. We learn how to love and to hold on to the things worth cherishing. And so it seems as if time moves more quickly because we don't want to part with the good things, the people and places we've built our comfort zone around. It's a bit scary isn't it? And I'm sure everyone feels it, which ought to make you less scared of it all, but that's easier said than done, as are most things."
I kind of disagree with her. I mean, what she said was right, we don't want to part with the good things that we've created. But time is moving faster, I mean, not actually, but comparatively. When we're 5, an hour seems like a forever because all we've lived is 5 years. 1 hour out of 5 years of hours is still kind of significant. But as we grow older, that ratio decreases. 1 hour out of 20 years of hours isn't as significant. The more time that passes, the less significant each second gets. If that's how you think about it. It can also be argued that each second is more vital. Our clock is counting down not up. Yes that's the depressing way to think about it but it's true. We can't waste our time holding on to things that were once comfortable to us. We have to take advantage of every opportunity that comes our way. We have to make the most of our time here, do what makes us happy. I feel like I've learned a lot this year and in some ways I've grown a lot too. There are obviously still so much room for improvement. There always is. But I think that it's time. I know that this is cliche and it's what everyone says about every year, but 2015 is it. It's THE year. I don't know why yet, but I know. And I kind of have to too. If I think 2015 is going to be a crap year, am I really giving it a chance to be great? No. 2015 is going to be the year. My year. And I can't wait for it.
Why This Week Was Awesome: Christmas
Times Eaten at Chipotle: 16
Books Read: 15
Airplanes Ridden: 20
Concerts Attended: 22
Airplanes Ridden: 20
Concerts Attended: 22
Sunday, December 21, 2014
We Need to Let it Breathe
Jebus. It's been two weeks.
Sorry about that. Life happened. That first week was just finals. Eh. It's over.
Then, things got interesting on Friday. Bianca and I flew from Seattle to Maui and then Maui to Honolulu. Kelsey and Shariah picked us up. We went to beach. Experienced the warmth and watched the sunset. We then went to a restaurant in Waikiki and Shy got shaded by the waiter, we talked about about a lot, and just enjoyed each other. We then went to Christmas Tree park, swag on the swing, looked at the stars, enjoyed life. Then we went and got Alec from the airport at like 11, acted a fool in the airport, and then went home.
Saturday: Woke up, went to Sandy's, realized it was way too big, tried to find a different beach, failed a little, ended up at Kahala. We went in the water. It was cold. B and I went deep. She sacrificed her foot. Shoutout for that. Kelsey left. We went to Lanikai juice. Noms. Then we got Dem, went to Zippys, went to Waikiki, then went to Honolulu Hale for the city lights. The six of us were together. It felt good. Phoenix (Me, Dem, and B) went up to Tantalus. We went in the treehouse. It was good, but it was raining. I lost my slipper and we got dirty. Worth it though.
Sunday: Went to North Shore, did the Ehukai pillbox hike with Jaime, Gavin, Rebecca, Tiffany, and 4 of Rebecca's friends. Then we drove a little, ate, ended up at Lanikai beach. It wasn't a good weather day, but it still had it's moments.
Monday: Went to Disney. Tried to eat at Costco. Didn't work. Still mad about that. Chilled at the beach. Ate dinner at Just Tacos. Met our waiter Nolan. All of us died. We were acting a fool but he was so there for it. We left our room number and a phone number for him. He texted us. It never worked out, but still, it was ridiculous.
Tuesday: Disney. Pool. Beach. Koa Pancake House. Fancy dinner. Too expensive. It hurt. Listened to an awesome performer at Monkey Pod. Went back, got to know each other better. It was good.
Wednesday: Character breakfast. Selfies with Minnie. Expensive. Left. Went to Pearl City. Went to west side. Failed. Highway Inn. Skate park (one of my favorite moments, sitting around the skate bowl thing. It felt right.) Danced on the playground. Went to see the stars. Almost got caught up.
Thursday: Woke up at 4. Pillboxes for sunrise. Cinnamons. Lanikai beach. Really really sick. Slept on beach. Came home, nappy nap. Ate at Zippys. Took Shariah to the airport. Went to the beach. Talked. Went to Walmart.
Friday: Went to Ana Millers. Took B to the airport. Went to Ala Moana. Went to Waiola. Went to Iolani. Went to Tantalus. Ate dinner. Talk.
Saturday: Woke up. Ate at Koa Pancake house. Took Alec and Dem to the airport. Kelsey brought me home. Done.
This week was great and stressful. It was hard being in charge and figuring out what to do and having everyone look to me. It was good though. It was nice to be with them. It was nice to show them around. It was nice to get to know them better. It was nice to connect with them more.
Things in life change. People grow and morph and learn and things shouldn't be stagnate. It's hard sometimes to accept change. It's hard to accept your flaws. It's hard to see your mistakes. But it's right to move forward. It's right to do what is right. My life has not been and is not perfect. I've grown and changed become a new a better me. I need to focus on this. Surrounding myself with things and people that will help me to continue to grow and change. Life is happening and I need to happen with it. So thank you Bunch, for helping me to see that.
Why This Week Was Awesome: Almost done
Sorry about that. Life happened. That first week was just finals. Eh. It's over.
Then, things got interesting on Friday. Bianca and I flew from Seattle to Maui and then Maui to Honolulu. Kelsey and Shariah picked us up. We went to beach. Experienced the warmth and watched the sunset. We then went to a restaurant in Waikiki and Shy got shaded by the waiter, we talked about about a lot, and just enjoyed each other. We then went to Christmas Tree park, swag on the swing, looked at the stars, enjoyed life. Then we went and got Alec from the airport at like 11, acted a fool in the airport, and then went home.
Saturday: Woke up, went to Sandy's, realized it was way too big, tried to find a different beach, failed a little, ended up at Kahala. We went in the water. It was cold. B and I went deep. She sacrificed her foot. Shoutout for that. Kelsey left. We went to Lanikai juice. Noms. Then we got Dem, went to Zippys, went to Waikiki, then went to Honolulu Hale for the city lights. The six of us were together. It felt good. Phoenix (Me, Dem, and B) went up to Tantalus. We went in the treehouse. It was good, but it was raining. I lost my slipper and we got dirty. Worth it though.
Sunday: Went to North Shore, did the Ehukai pillbox hike with Jaime, Gavin, Rebecca, Tiffany, and 4 of Rebecca's friends. Then we drove a little, ate, ended up at Lanikai beach. It wasn't a good weather day, but it still had it's moments.
Monday: Went to Disney. Tried to eat at Costco. Didn't work. Still mad about that. Chilled at the beach. Ate dinner at Just Tacos. Met our waiter Nolan. All of us died. We were acting a fool but he was so there for it. We left our room number and a phone number for him. He texted us. It never worked out, but still, it was ridiculous.
Tuesday: Disney. Pool. Beach. Koa Pancake House. Fancy dinner. Too expensive. It hurt. Listened to an awesome performer at Monkey Pod. Went back, got to know each other better. It was good.
Wednesday: Character breakfast. Selfies with Minnie. Expensive. Left. Went to Pearl City. Went to west side. Failed. Highway Inn. Skate park (one of my favorite moments, sitting around the skate bowl thing. It felt right.) Danced on the playground. Went to see the stars. Almost got caught up.
Thursday: Woke up at 4. Pillboxes for sunrise. Cinnamons. Lanikai beach. Really really sick. Slept on beach. Came home, nappy nap. Ate at Zippys. Took Shariah to the airport. Went to the beach. Talked. Went to Walmart.
Friday: Went to Ana Millers. Took B to the airport. Went to Ala Moana. Went to Waiola. Went to Iolani. Went to Tantalus. Ate dinner. Talk.
Saturday: Woke up. Ate at Koa Pancake house. Took Alec and Dem to the airport. Kelsey brought me home. Done.
This week was great and stressful. It was hard being in charge and figuring out what to do and having everyone look to me. It was good though. It was nice to be with them. It was nice to show them around. It was nice to get to know them better. It was nice to connect with them more.
Things in life change. People grow and morph and learn and things shouldn't be stagnate. It's hard sometimes to accept change. It's hard to accept your flaws. It's hard to see your mistakes. But it's right to move forward. It's right to do what is right. My life has not been and is not perfect. I've grown and changed become a new a better me. I need to focus on this. Surrounding myself with things and people that will help me to continue to grow and change. Life is happening and I need to happen with it. So thank you Bunch, for helping me to see that.
Why This Week Was Awesome: Almost done
Times Eaten at Chipotle: 16
Books Read: 14
Airplanes Ridden: 20
Concerts Attended: 22
Airplanes Ridden: 20
Concerts Attended: 22
Sunday, December 7, 2014
Two Group Presentations This Week Let's Go
I had some bad tea today and now I feel nauseated. I can't beat Kendall's awesome news so I won't even try. Proud of you Kendall!
Giants Think the World is Theirs But I Got a Handful of Magic Beans
Hey guys.
It was dead week. That's all I have to say about that.
Something more interesting though, yesterday, I went to a protest. Now, I don't really get involved in stuff like that but with everything that's happened recently I have been really interested in what's been going on. And while there, I didn't 100% agree with everything everyone said, I still believed in people letting their voices be heard and it was really powerful. Also, it was a march of about 1000 people. I was in the front. Literally, me and my friends were holding a sign, leading the pack. I don't even understand how that happened.
Proof: http://www.komonews.com/news/local/Photos-Activists-protest-police-brutality-in-Seattle-284991261.html?tab=gallery&c=y&img=11
Why This Week Was Awesome: Almost done
It was dead week. That's all I have to say about that.
Something more interesting though, yesterday, I went to a protest. Now, I don't really get involved in stuff like that but with everything that's happened recently I have been really interested in what's been going on. And while there, I didn't 100% agree with everything everyone said, I still believed in people letting their voices be heard and it was really powerful. Also, it was a march of about 1000 people. I was in the front. Literally, me and my friends were holding a sign, leading the pack. I don't even understand how that happened.
Proof: http://www.komonews.com/news/local/Photos-Activists-protest-police-brutality-in-Seattle-284991261.html?tab=gallery&c=y&img=11
Why This Week Was Awesome: Almost done
Times Eaten at Chipotle: 16
Books Read: 13
Airplanes Ridden: 18
Concerts Attended: 22
Airplanes Ridden: 18
Concerts Attended: 22
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